Diary 4 Life - Latest Comments

Re: From failure to function

Paul — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 11:22:26 -0000

Scott, thanks for calling in to add your comment. I'm please to hear you are taking something from the post. I fully agree with your philosophy of allowing people to do things their way; may be fail, in a safe environment and learn from their experience.

Regards
Paul

Re: From failure to function

Scott Bergman — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 19:51:22 -0000

Hi Paul, great article. I agree wholeheartedly with you, people should not run from failure. Handled correctly, a failure can be a great learning opportunity.

As a trainer, sometimes the only way to get a point across to people is to let them do it there way and fail at the task at hand, provided the failure can happen safely and without cost other than hurt ego. Failure has provided me some of my best learning experiences.

Take care!

Re: First Impression

Paul — Sun, 24 Oct 2010 15:00:48 -0000

Lyudmila, many thanks for your comment. It's great to read a comment that doesn't agree with what I've written. I intend to take a look athe book you've recommended, thank you for that.

Regards
Paul

Re: Developing Creativity

Paul — Sun, 24 Oct 2010 14:57:50 -0000

Scott, many thanks for dropping in to add your comment. I'm pleased to read you've been able to take something from the post. I've always been frustrated by people who claim they are creative, with a large slice of inference that others aren't.

Regards
Paul

Re: Coaching and Mentoring

Paul — Sun, 24 Oct 2010 14:55:08 -0000

Karen, many thanks for your comment. I'm pleased you've been able to take something away from the post. The coaching and mentoring roles had always existed with blurred edges for me until I began coaching a few years ago. Sorry for the delay in responding.

Regards
Paul

Re: First Impression

Lyudmila Bloch — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 22:54:44 -0000

Hi Paul,
I would like respectfully disagree with your statement that "we choose to create another person" when we make our first impression. Just the opposite: we send our personal energy as an electrical current through the palm of our hand, and with that our inner portrait. There is a great book I recommend (400 pages) -- The Power of the Handshake by Dorothea Johnson and another author (can't remember his name), and it's a great read all about this amazing ritual called handshake!

Re: Developing Creativity

Scott Bergman — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 19:15:40 -0000

Fantastic article Paul! I always love to get tips on being more creative. These are all good tips, but the three things I agree with you most on is #3 - you gotta have bravery, #9 - People have to be allowed to make mistakes in order to learn, and #10 - be confident. Those things alone will take a person far. Take care!

Re: Coaching and Mentoring

Karen Ruby — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 12:48:02 -0000

Hi Paul,

You know, I never really stopped to think about the differences between coaching and mentoring, but you've certainly given me something to think about. It's very true that in some people's minds that coaching and mentoring is the same thing, but as you pointed out, they are very different ways of helping others. Wouldn't you agree though that a coach could be a mentor and that a mentor could be your coach? :-) Whether that is a formal or informal arrangement or not. I have some mentors that I look up to, even though I don't know them personally (some aren't even real) but they do have an influence on my thinking and my actions.

Thanks,
Karen

Re: How to make your hard work pay

Paul — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 12:49:22 -0000

Thanks for calling in to add your comment. Great thoughts you've added to the conversation; there is much said about 'short working weeks and high returns", however I'm not really an advocate of that theory.

Regards
Paul

Re: Comfort Zones

Paul — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 12:45:53 -0000

Many thanks for calling in to add your comment. Your thoughts of stretching whilst still keeping in touch is a great analogy.

Regards
Paul

Re: How to make your hard work pay

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Re: Comfort Zones

clearlycomposed — Sat, 02 Oct 2010 13:04:02 -0000

I love the idea of stretching our zone. It's not leaving it all together but expanding it in order to make our world bigger. Good stuff here...thanks. :)

Re: Comfort Zones

Paul — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 04:22:44 -0000

Walter, thanks for calling in to add to the conversation. You're right the challenge of facing up to the unknown whilst easing ourselves from familiarity is certainly a necessity.

Regards
Paul

Re: Comfort Zones

Paul — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 04:18:29 -0000

Ryan, thanks for calling in to add your comment. I agree as we endeavour to step out of our comfort zone we are faced with the challenge of our ego.

Regards
Paul

Re: Comfort Zones

Walter — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 20:59:15 -0000

Stepping out of our comfort zone is something we are not accustomed to. During our growth periods we were inculcated with the attitude that its better to be on our familiar turf than to venture to the unknown. If ones aspires to succeed, he must emancipate from this limiting attitude. :-)

Re: Comfort Zones

Ryan Biddulph — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 14:59:13 -0000

Hi Paul,

A super reminder to constantly push the limits of your comfort zone. As you note stepping out of your comfort zone isn't generally as painful as we think it might be. Our ego usually runs wild, creating gloom and doom scenarios to keep us comfortable, content, and dying a little more each day.

Thanks for sharing your insight and have a great day.

Ryan

Re: Stepping out of the box

Paul — Sat, 25 Sep 2010 12:54:16 -0000

Julius, thanks for adding your comment. You may only consider you're using little things but the effect is still the same and just as powerful. Well done!

Regards
Paul

Re: Stepping out of the box

Paul — Sat, 25 Sep 2010 12:52:39 -0000

Julius, thanks for calling in to add your comment. That's such a positive attitude to 'challenge your own beliefs'. I suppose it's having the belief that you can do it!

Regards
Paul

Re: Stepping out of the box

Julius — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 23:28:56 -0000

I personally try to step out of the box when it comes to little things everyday. These little changes help me prepare for that big step which I plan to take.

Re: Stepping out of the box

Julius — Tue, 21 Sep 2010 17:05:18 -0000

Great, great article Paul. I believe that continously challenging your own beliefs is the best way to grow. Why are there so many people refusing to do so? It's pretty obvious: because you challenge everything you have done up to that point. You challenge whether it was right. That's why so many people don't do it in the first place.

By the way I really like the new design.

Re: Stepping out of the box

Paul — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 15:59:50 -0000

Thanks for calling in to start the conversation off, it's great to see you here. I'm pleased to hear you enjoyed reading the post. I like your metaphor of the rubber ball and brick; very appropriate.

Regards
Paul

Re: Stepping out of the box

Adam Sicinski — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 03:31:51 -0000

Great insights Paul. I absolutely agree that it's not what happens to us, but rather how we respond to what happens that makes the biggest difference. You mentioned that it's all about picking ourselves up after our failures. I think this is very important when it comes to achieving success in any field of endeavor. When working with Life Coaching clients I always use the metaphor of the Rubber Ball or Brick. The brick crashes to the ground and breaks apart into many pieces, while the rubber ball bounces right back up. Which one are you?

Thanks for the great insights :)

Re: Self Coaching

Paul — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 11:04:49 -0000

Takara, thank you for calling in to add your comment.

Regards
Paul

Re: Honesty

Paul — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 11:01:01 -0000

Johnny, thanks for stopping by to add to the conversation, it's great to see you here. You have provided a very interesting view point; raising some interesting discussion points.

Regards
Paul

Re: Self Coaching

Takara — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 16:51:26 -0000

Very valuable information! Thank you for the tips...